That's an eternal question isn't it? Is it lust for another's body, connection to that person's soul through union, or something more intangible? I think sometimes it is a bit of all three.
What is it that draws two people together? My parents ended up divorcing after 32 years together, but my dad right now has been married to my step mom almost as long.
today is my mother's birthday, and i wonder of her. She spent all of her life after the divorce without other male companionship. She told me she only ever loved one man.
My dad, on the other hand, is home right now with my ailing step-mom. she has a ementia problem, and today is being a bad day. Still, at 86, he is willing to stick out the situation, knowing she will never get better, but also knowing that he may be the one person who can keep her under some control, so she doesn't get hurt ot frightened.
Both of those things speak of love. It teeters somewhere between selfishness and self-less-ness. i just haven't quite figured out the point of overlap between two people, and the point of individuality that drew them together in the first place.
I keep looking, keep trying. Maybe that's why I am here this time around.
Happy birthday mom. I miss you.